14 year old Emily’s golfing journey so far, by her Dad Mick!

Intro by @GolfPeach: One of the most rewarding aspects of blogging is receiving feedback from fellow golfers… well, usually! My recent piece on the gateway to golf for young women ( read it in Lady Golfer Magazine) produced a fascinating response from a proud dad whose daughter fell in love with the game at the age of 7 and is still as passionate at 14. He highlighted a barrier to female progress that I had never considered.
Some clubs make no provisions for ladies playing competition golf at weekends, so girls in full-time education and working women are denied the chance to lower their handicaps and win prizes. That can’t be right and needs to be addressed straight away.
My own club, Bearwood Lakes GC, does have a weekly ‘ladies’ morning’ and a full calendar of female comps, but women are allowed to enter all of the weekend roll-ups and many of the club’s most prestigious weekend events. It is a 21st century example that needs to become the rule not the exception if golfers like Emily… and her dad… are to be heard and accommodated.
Thank you to Mick and Emily Doyle… read on…

“Great article. My experience/opinion is that often daughters (or sons for that matter) take an interest in what dad is doing, and as Emily is an only child, I think that added an extra intensity.
Emily’s interest started when we were on a family holiday in Devon when she was just 7 yrs. old. My father and I (both golfers) took her to a family pitch and putt and she really enjoyed the fun, non-pressurised holiday element of the game.

After that I would continue to play ‘proper’ golf games with friends, colleagues etc and Emily would insist on coming along to play. I wouldn’t allow it, not through embarrassment or selfishness, but as you touched on, I didn’t want a 7 year old girl tutted at or scoffed at for having a go on a big course. This would have only turned her right off the game.
Instead, I would take her to the range where we would do things at our pace and play however we wanted to play. It remained fun. I would give her my wedge and just let her hit the ball, no coaching. She watched me and I waited for her to say “how can I hit it further, straighter etc?”
I didn’t want to introduce her to a proper golf course or equipment until I felt she was ready and so we carried on having fun just whacking balls. The range we went to at that time had a junior passport programme – which I think is an England golf initiative – and I enrolled her onto it which was a block booking of 5 x 1 hour weekly coaching for just £30 with a PGA pro (£6 per lesson).

There was a good mix of girls and boys aged 4 to around 9 and it was fantastic! At this point I had still only bought her a ladies 7 iron for about £25 so if she didn’t want to continue, no great expense lost. We went on to do a further 2 of these block lessons and by the end of it, she was ready to play casually. For passing her primary school exams, I treated her to a full set of ‘off the shelf’ clubs, again only £200 and yes still an outlay but she developed a real interest and I wanted to encourage that.
Meanwhile, pro ladies coverage was getting bigger and the ladies golf image was becoming far more trendy than it once was. I took her to Woburn a couple of years ago to watch the women’s Open and meet the stars like Charley, Lydia Ko and so on. We are going again this year to Lytham.
Unfortunately at her club she is practically the only junior girl but the ladies are so good with her and involve her in everything. So that she had a good mix, I enrolled her with the Lancashire County Girls so she could also mix and play with girls of her own age, again her club membership is £0 and county membership £6 per year. We just have to pay for comp entries which are never more than £10 at this level .
Our experience so far has been pretty good and not overly expensive. For junior girls, I would advise getting in touch with their county. Lancashire for example will take girls in even if they are not a member of a club for £12. This could be beneficial as they will meet girls from around the county and can make an informed decision on which would be the best club for them to join.
I would also like to add that 2017 was Emily’s 1st season as a club member and her first comp with the county girls recorded a hole in one on the 1st tee and went on to win the comp.
She has been training hard this winter and has taken individual lessons from Pete Styles , director of golf at Trafford golf centre and all this hard work will pay dividends for her 2018 season.

I would like to say though that the biggest challenge we face for aspiring young girls or women playing golf is that it is difficult for the majority to really get the chance to compete and chip away at their handicap because women’s competitions are generally during the week whereas men’s are on a Saturday. This makes it really difficult for females (not all but most)- to progress in the sport when they are in full time education or work
Emily wasn’t eligible to play in club competitions last year as she hadn’t yet got her club handicap. Now that she has a starting handicap, this year it will still be a struggle to try and get that down because your card has to be marked in an official comp – which are played on Thursdays for ladies.
She could play the odd competition in school holidays, but for women who work mon-fri, that makes it even more restricted. The ladies at Emily’s golf club have been pushing hard to try and get the ladies comps.split over 2 days, so the girls/ladies who cannot make Thursday will play in a “part 2” of the competition on Sunday.
Thankfull, the Lancs county are great because all their junior comps are at the weekend. They also run ‘card marking’ days which means that junior girls who don’t yet have a CONGU handicap have the opportunity to play in a comp which is strictly officiated and their score is signed off and goes towards their handicap. Emily played in one of those last year at Royal Lytham & St Anne’s and came 3rd.

14 year old Emily on golf: “I really like golf because it’s a never ending game of improvement and unlike most other sports, each shot produces a different outcome every time and new challenges. You don’t need to get a team together to play – you are often competing with yourself, and your game can be different each time you play because of weather conditions and the variety of courses you can play all over the world. There are lots of ranges where I can practice and can even practice my putting indoors at home. I like the fact there still is the etiquette attached to the game and although that includes what you can wear, I love the fact that I can choose what colour and designs I can wear and not have to play in a uniformed kit”

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Hello Mr Tom ‘Foghorn’ Irwin ! @GolfPeach has something to say about your call to do away with the handicap system:

I like a roll-up. It’s a recipe for meeting new people with fresh takes on the shared passion of golf. There is a ‘dating game’ risk involved with committing four hours of your life to the company of a total stranger and very occasionally you know that a long-term relationship is out of the question even before you reach the 1st green. It was a bit like that with this Tom Irwin article (see link at the end of this blog) attacking the whole idea of handicaps. I made my mind up about Mr Irwin after the first paragraph.

Tom, if the biggest cause of stress in your life is a 0.1 handicap hike, you really need to get out more. Anyone that sees something ‘dystopian’ in the handicap system is maybe looking a little too hard. If golf without handicaps is your utopia, it is freely available in Club Champs and other scratch comps. There’s even a thing called the Open you can enter if you can get your handicap down to ‘plus’ numbers. Golf at elite level is purely about how many swings you take.

Golf at my level is about the four years of wonderful sporting pleasure, challenge and camaraderie I’ve enjoyed since I first took up the game… four years in which my handicap has come down from 36 to 18. During that time, I’ve played with and against men, women, juniors, seniors and even a few pros. Most might have given me shots, a few may have muttered about me beneath their breath but none have ever been less than gracious and supportive in victory or defeat.

As a beginner, I needed a high handicap for morale and encouragement. Now that I have reached a respectable standard, I not only aspire to lowering my handicap, I actually enjoy the test of teeing it up on a hole where I’m giving my opponent a shot. It focusses the mind. Tom’s mind appears to have been twisted by some bad experiences with ‘bandits’ at his club. He writes about the roll-up as ‘the Saturday swindle’, he describes the first prize on Captain’s Day as ‘a hideous, engraved tankard’. Sounds like you missed out on the tankard by a shot, Tom?

Worst of all, he calls the handicap system ‘elitist’ when it is the very opposite of that. Handicaps break down elites and devise a system that promotes a unique kind of competition within our game. If there are people cheating the system (and there are), they are not only cheating themselves but their reputations soon go before them. No sport is less forgiving of cheats than golf. A game that builds character can stain character if you take liberties with it.

Tom Irwin’s biggest ‘give away’ is his concluding argument that there shouldn’t even be a distinction between professional and amateur players. I dare say that he is a much, much better player than me but he isn’t getting anything like as much out of golf because he is so fixated with the last number he writes on his card. I’m bloody competitive, don’t you worry. I have cried on a golf course!… but I’ve laughed and smiled a lot more. And the handshakes and kisses I’ve exchanged on the final green are always warm and sincere irrespective of the result. If my opponents show a respect for golf, they will get it back from me in spades whatever their handicap.

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